Friends are important, and since we can pick our friends and not our family I would say pick them wisely. A negative friend can have a negative impact on you. I too had my shares of these negative friends and I learned that they only are a waste of time.
Why would someone be a your Friend if they
don't really like you?
One common reason is due to Cognitive Dissonance: this takes place when one has two conflicting beliefs and alters one over the other. An example of this is for instance when people have to buy a new car and have narrowed it down to two choices. When they finally make a choice, they then rate the car they choose higher than the car they didn’t choose. They try to come up with additional justifications why the car of their choice is the best one to go for. Otherwise it wouldn't make sense why we chose this car over the other lower rated one.
So in case of a fake friend, he or she can be secretly jealous of you and likes to put you down. A fake friend will try to prove that there is something wrong with you in every way just to not admit that he or she is jealous of you. Maybe they find you smart, or pretty or a nice person and hate you for it.
Moreover people tend to justify their actions, by altering their beliefs about the world and believing that they are right, this is called Self-deception. Most people do not like to admit they are wrong! They lie to themselves, we all do it when we for instance think ‘we can eat that extra piece of chocolate it is ok, we will start dieting tomorrow’.
It really can make all the difference if you surround yourself with loving and true friends who make you happy. Do not waste your time on negative people who like to put you down so they can feel better about themselves.
When someone says a negative thing to you, question it. Ask yourself if this person wants to give you some positive feedback about something that you can actually change? Or perhaps this advice is empty and useless?
Remember:
"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-
Steven Winterburn
So in case of a fake friend, he or she can be secretly jealous of you and likes to put you down. A fake friend will try to prove that there is something wrong with you in every way just to not admit that he or she is jealous of you. Maybe they find you smart, or pretty or a nice person and hate you for it.
Moreover people tend to justify their actions, by altering their beliefs about the world and believing that they are right, this is called Self-deception. Most people do not like to admit they are wrong! They lie to themselves, we all do it when we for instance think ‘we can eat that extra piece of chocolate it is ok, we will start dieting tomorrow’.
It really can make all the difference if you surround yourself with loving and true friends who make you happy. Do not waste your time on negative people who like to put you down so they can feel better about themselves.
When someone says a negative thing to you, question it. Ask yourself if this person wants to give you some positive feedback about something that you can actually change? Or perhaps this advice is empty and useless?
Remember:
"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-
Steven Winterburn
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