SUPERNANNY, SOCIAL SERVICES, AND SOCIETY

Back about 30 years ago I noticed women my age having babies, 30 and up. I was told that this was a great time to have them. I was often looked down on by “sophisticated” new mothers who had a whole regime on parenting. No spanking, no threats, build self esteem, no consequences, ignore bad behavior, walk away and stay in denial. They prattled on about how a child should be raised. If you spank a child you are an abuser. They would look at my daughter at age 16, then at me, and invariably they would snarkily ask, “Did you have a facelift?” I was only 35. I would respond “No, why?” “My God, what age did you have your daughter?” I would tell them honestly and the eyes would roll. Yet these mothers had no control over their children and I was told control was a code word for “dog like training.” Their children were going to be loved, no stings of “no” , no intolerance of screaming while the mother talked, no obedience at all.

What I learned is that age does not qualify one to be a good parent. I would observe in horror as children would tear down displays at grocery stores, scream at their mothers for not buying them what they wanted. My daughter was the neighborhood sitter. She cleaned up and saved her money. One of the mothers called one day singing her praises. “Your daughter is such a polite, well-mannered girl, we adore her and so do the kids. They never speak to her like they do to us. You are lucky.” It was then right after she asked me if my daughter could watch her two sick kids that had strep throat. I lost it. First, no mother should go to a party when kids are sick. Second, it was nearly Christmas and my daughter did not want strep. I responded, “Luck had nothing to do with it. She learned respect at an early age. She never screamed like your kids do when told no. No means No, and no she will not baby sit for you tonight.” I do not believe this idiot was ever told off or called down for her lack of parenting skills. She began screaming, she yelled wildly into the phone, similar to her kids “Your daughter knew we were going out tonight. The doctors says it is okay, this is a breach of a verbal agreement.” Her husband was a lawyer, and she let everyone know it, so I answered back in a parental voice, “What you're missing, lady, is that I am the mother. I make the decisions, not my daughter, and I decide for you to keep your narcissistic ass home and watch own sick kids. You should be ashamed they are sick. What you lack in mothering is only surpassed by your ego-maniacal attitude. It is always about 'me'.”

Fast forward to today. We have young adults never taught “no,” they truly are living off mom and dad. My daughter is still friends with the niece of the lady. In fact, this nasty lady kicked her niece out after inviting her to live with them as a built-in baby sitter. We took her in and this girl (now a woman) to this day is attached is to me. She is a success. My daughter is a success. Why? Did they have problems in life? Of course. No life goes without trials and tribulations. They were told “no” if I thought something was not good for them. All of the girls would gang up. “Mom I can drive in snow?” “No.”

Being a parent is a full time job, not a sometime job. Teaching is the most important job a mother and father has. The children will follow your example. If you allow disrespect you will get it. If you allow screaming you will get it. If you allow social services and Super Nanny dictate you will be raising a child forever. We see this in our society. Everyone asks, “Why are the young adults like this?” I ask, "When did social services began to say spanking is evil, when did they take good parents away from their children costing families their home to hire an attorney? When did people stick their nose into a mother disciplining a child in Walmart?"  That case was dropped. How many parents were jailed when children called social services? Too many. The follow up on the brats who were not told “no,” are still living with that nasty mother who left them when they were sick. Adult children are living off parents. I even know a middle-aged college professor who is living off Mommy and daddy. Why? What went wrong? First, the government became a Super Nanny, allowing social services to destroy families. The lump together parents who innately knew that a whack on the butt was better than having dependent children, disrespectful children that we know now grew into lazy, disrespectful, frivolous, adults who want others to support them. These are the Wall Street occupiers, left-wing dependent babies that grew into dependent adults. Thank your local social services, PTA, and public school for tuning in kids to report on their parents. Now we have a society that is incompetent, intolerant, impatient, improvident, and an embarrassment to this country. Thank Super Nanny state and Federal Government. 

 We who knew back then were silent, but not any longer. It is time to wipe out useless programs like Social Services who give back battered kids to abusive parents because the father was a lawyer. Remember that case in New York? Take kids from good homes and cost them two years of their life fighting for their kids and losing everything in the process. Government did not just begin taking over with Obama; in fact, he is the fertile ground already manured with toxic turds that are wasted lives. Get out your shovels and start shifting!